13 September 2025

Vita Sackville West at Sissinghurst

Vita Sackville-West was one of the C20ths most influential gardeners. In 1913 at 21 she married Harold Nicolson in Knole’s chapel in a very public marriage, and so speculation was rife among members of society and the media. Husband Harold was a diplomat and diarist, and though the couple remained happily married, they both had many affairs with same-sex partners throughout their lives.

Vita by William Strang, 1918

Virginia Woolf by George Beresford, 1902, National Gallery











Later the couple bought Grade I listed Sissinghurst Castle in Kent in 1930, transforming the rundown estate over the decades into today’s beautiful garden.

Sissinghurst Castle Garden, National Trust Images 












For the first time in Sissinghurst, a National Trust exhibition has focused on her writing via her works: Between the Covers with Vita: Life and Literature of Vita Sackville-West at Sissinghurst in 2025. The exhibition helped visitors explore Vita’s life and legacy, into the world of her pioneering writing which explored women’s lives, loves and identities.

Sissinghurst tower, in front of the house

Vita wanted to be known predominantly as a writer, and at the height of her career she was better known than her friend/lover Virginia Woolf. Her love affairs with women like Virginia had been well documented, and Vita’s output as a writer who explored love and identity was prolific. But in time, some of her work fell into obscurity. Today it is Virginia who is the more famous of the pair for her publications.

Although Vita had an open marriage with Harold, she was careful to conceal the identities of the women lovers who inspired her in her writing eg in the poem The Dancing Elf 1912. This was her first published work, dedicated to her first love and schoolmate, Rosamund Grosvenor, noting her sweet and ethereal spirit.

Women in Vita’s life could also be obstructive regarding her writing. Fearing a scandal from Vitas thinly veiled love affair with her lover Violet Trefusis in the book Challenge 1923, examining themes of censorship, rebellion and trans identity, Lady Sackville got her daughter’s book banned from UK sales, which incensed Vita.

Vita’s relationships with female family members were also explored in her writing, including her first novel Heritage 1919 in which leading character Ruth Pennistan was a farmer’s daughter whose striking features hinted at a heritage inspired by Vita’s own grand mother, Spanish Gypsy Pepita. Vita’s mother reacted kindly this time, writing 150+ letters of recommendation to shops and friends. The women lovers and family members who influenced her writing were explored through the Between the Covers.

Vita's handwritten notes

Hogarth Printing Press 
Vita's desk and instruments

















On display were personal objects held by the author, including a book with her handwritten notes inside. 
Visitors saw personal objects such as one of Vita’s notebooks, an original watercolour design for her book The Air and a letter opener made from a shoe that belonged to her grandmother. And there was an inscription in the Oxford Book of Italian verse from her mother, given to Vita Sackville-West for her birthday. On display at the exhibition was a rare copy of Devil at Westease 1947, Vita’s only murder mystery during her brief flirt with crime writing; it was published abroad but not in the UK! Her other types of writing included science fiction, poetry and novels, and she was among the first writers to create women characters with a mind of their own. Now Vita’s writing has come to be seen as pioneering in its exploration of love, sex and trans identity.

For the exhibition, the National Trust showed the original printing press called Hogarth Press, a publishing company owned by Virginia Woolf and husband Leonard Woolf. The Woolfs were committed to supporting literature, including women’s voices. Their press printed many of Vita’s works at the height of her literary career, including All Passion Spent 1931, one of her most praised and bestselling novels. It told the story of an elderly widow who surprised her family by embracing independence even after her husband’s death.

Sissinghurst was donated to the National Trust after Vita’s death in 1962, as documented in son Nigel’s 1973 book, Portrait of a Marriage. He repeated that, decades earlier, his mother’s most famous affair was with the writer-Bloomsbury Group member

Summary Known globally for her many same-sex relationships, Sackville-West’s influence as a writer was somewhat overlooked by history. The 2025 exhibition Between the Covers mapped Vita Sackville-Wests literary journey, from her debut poem The Dancing Elf to her final novel, Sign posts in the Sea. Between the Covers took visitors right into the world of Vita’s special writing which explored the lives, loves and characteristics of women. Sackville-West was known as one of the C20ths most influential gardeners. In 1913, at 21, she married Harold Nicolson in Knole’s chapel in a very public marriage, and so speculation was rife among members of society and the media. Husband Harold Nicolson was a diplomat and diarist, and though the couple remained happily married, they both had many affairs with same-sex partners throughout their lives.

For the first time in the Sissinghurst home, a National Trust exhibition has focused on her writing via her works: Between the Covers with Vita: Life and Literature of Vita Sackville-West at Sissinghurst in 2025. The exhibition helped visitors explore Vita’s life and legacy, into the world of her pioneering writing which explored women’s lives, loves and identities.

The exhibition also featured a series of illustrations and an animated film by artist Sarah Tanat-Jones. Her modern images reflected aspects of Vita’s life and literary legacy.

Summary Known globally for her many same-sex relationships, Sackville-West’s influence as a writer was somewhat overlooked by history. The 2025 exhibition Between the Covers mapped Vita Sackville-Wests literary journey, from her debut poem The Dancing Elf to her final novel, Sign posts in the Sea. Between the Covers took visitors right into the world of Vita’s special writing which explored the lives, loves and characteristics of women.





22 comments:

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Hels - lovely to see your grandchildren and great they have French or Hebrew names. I've no idea what I'd call a child and occasionally think about names ... there was a girl at school called Honour - I hope she stood up to her name. Origins of names is an interesting subject ... cheers Hilary

Deb said...

The problem is that babies have no choice in selecting their own names.

I would pick a girl's name with a soft ending eg Amelia or Melanie, not Madison or Lennox. But then at 15 the daughter might say I want to be called Queen from now on.

Hels said...

Hilary

there were many names based on religious virtues that were popular for girls for a long time. Not just Honour, but also Felicity, Grace, Sage, Mercy, Verity, Joy, Justice, Constance, Hope, Faith, Prudence, Destiny, Charity and Serenity. They are beautiful names, but they might hold the girls to a rigorous standard. Perhaps Virginia is TOO high a standard.

Boys have fewer virtues to live up to, apparently :)

Hels said...

Deb

Right! Babies and young children have NO say whatsoever on the names that parents choose. And noone knows what names will be popular or otherwise in 20 years. So I suppose parents should be very careful in their choices at birth, AND flexible enough to allow the child to change his/her own name in late teens.

Remi, Harlow, Hallie, Maeve, Add­ison might or might not thrill the girls; ditto Ryder, Caleb, Hudson, Archer, River, Lennox and Arlo for the boys.

Parnassus said...

Hello Hels, Adorable grandchildren, and I can see some of the red hair genes coming through! If children don't like their names, they can use nicknames or middle names, or change their names when they get older. I would have thought Hudson was a girl's name, given recent usages such as Madison. Moreover, although Hudson is a pretty common surname, many will call to mind the famous Hudson sisters, Blanche and Jane.
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There is a clever You-tuber named Cary Huang who among other things specializes in computerized forms of data visualization. He did two fascinating videos about boys' and girls' baby names, although these do omit the last few years of name changes:

Girls' Names: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qVh2Qw5KSFg
Boys' Names: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WQv99sEPDsw&t=43s

--Jim

Fun60 said...

My latest grandson who is just 5 weeks old is called Theo which I really like.

Hels said...

Parnassus

Cary Huang's youtube productions were very clever indeed, thank you. I had assumed that the names in any one decade would stay consistent, both in order and in length of popularity, before that group faded away totally. And didn't returned for another 25 years. But no.. each girl's name seemed to be totally independent. Helen was very popular in the early decades :) .. and then was hardly seen again.

Each boy's name, on the other hand, seemed to stay more stable.

Hels said...

Fun60

I like Theo also. And Thea is an attractive girl's name as well.

But that leads me to another question. Should the new parents try out possible names on the grandparents, before signing the birth certificate?

Parnassus said...

Perhaps one reason that men's names are more stable is boys (especially gentiles) are named after their fathers more often than girls are named after their mothers.
--Jim

Luiz Gomes said...

Boa noite minha querida amiga. Tenho um sobrinho-neto chamado Theo. Ele é a estrela da família e muito inteligente, fará dois anos em janeiro. Parabéns pelo seu excelente trabalho e listagem.

Hels said...

Parnassus

correct! But why is that true for sons and not daughters? My best guess is that daughters (used to) lose their surnames at marriage anyhow. So the mother's name would be lost to history as soon as the daughter turned 20 or 22.

Hels said...

Luiz

Because I only knew about Britain and Australia, I had to look up favourite baby names in Brazil and with the exception of one or two names, I am totally familiar with these names:

Boys: 1 Miguel, 2 Arthur, 3 Heitor, 4 Theo, 5 Davi, 6 Gabriel, 7 Gael, 8 ernado, 9 Samuel, 10 Pedro, 11 Lorenzo, 12 Lucas

Girls: 1 Helena, 2 Alice, 3 Laura, 4 Valentina, 5 Heloísa, 6 Sophia, 7 Lorena, 8 Manuella, 9 Cecilia, 10 úlia, 11 Isabella and 12 Lívia

https://nameberry.com/popular-names/Brazil

mem said...

I have a grandson called Theodore Thomas . His parents fancy themselves as not following the pack !!!! :)
I have always gone for names that have some dignity , age well and are NOT deeply fashionable. I don't like girls names that end with y or ie because that is often used in a familiar and condescending way so not great for woman trying to cut it in the corporate or other worlds . I chose Simon , James and Peter

DUTA said...

Regarding first names, I'll say this:
1. I'm for girls names to end with the vowel 'a': Edna, Liliana, Olivia etc...
2. I'm for honoring ,as far as possible, the tradition of naming a new born after a departed family member.

Your grandchildren look adorable!

Hels said...

mem

I am totally with you regarding Simon, James and Peter. They have been sound, respectable and the most popular names of the last century, and the boys will be perfectly comfortable with those names when they became adults.

But dignity is another question. The other boys in school will use nicknames that stick around for years, and may be cute or not. My beloved, a redhead, was always called Bluey. But some boys at school were called Titch, Dag or Four Eyes :(

Hels said...

DUTA

I also value the tradition of naming a newborn after a departed family member. Even if the name is translated in daily use (my son was often called Peter instead of Pinchas), the child will know that he/she has carried the honour of the beloved late aunt or grandfather.

Hels said...

Luiz

oops 10. should be Júlia

Anonymous said...

Your choice Naomi is nice. My partner has English young great nephews called George and Archie. It is all very interesting. We have two great nieces, Harley and Willow, in your list but quite a surprise to us when they were named. The others are Mia, Emily and Lucas, Joanna, and Julia.
My first name was my father's second name, but it is not Andrew.
Our travel agent named her new born Hudson. I thought it odd to name a child after a river but I see it is quite popular.

Hels said...

Andrew

I am really glad you know people who called their babies Harley, Willow, Hudson etc. Its not that I didn't believe the British and Australian Offices of Births and Deaths, but I had never met any babies with those names. Mia, Emily and Sophia yes. Isla, Remi, Harlow and Hallie not yet.

bazza said...

We deliberately gave our two daughters classic names that we hoped were not fashionable - Ruth & Laura. I think many of those parents who named their daughters Kylie 20 years ago must be regretting it!
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Hels said...

bazza

classic names, fashionable or not, are always a pleasure for the child. Battista, Tempest and Godiva may be much loved now but draw ridicule in 25 years. Your daughters' names will always be classical.

One hesitation however. Bad people in real life or bad characters in successful shows will suddenly bring disrepute to previously perfectly names.

Hels said...

Parnassus and DUTA

many thanks for thinking my grandchildren were gorgeous. I do too, but it is lovely when others agree :) I selected an old photo because the only things I had to worry about back then were their food and cleanliness. Now I have to worry about safe driving, alcohol, drugs, passing exams, career choices and sex.

As a result of this blog post, I asked the oldest three if they liked the names their parents gave them. They did, but said they shortened their names in emails etc eg Gabby instead of Gabriella.